Do narcissists love their children?
Last Updated: 17.06.2025 00:06
My mother once said, "You'll see this happen when you have a baby: when the baby is inside of you, it's all yours. Once you give birth, the baby isn't yours anymore. It's everybody else's."
With my first pregnancy, I was terrified this would happen. It never did. With my second son, I was terrified I wouldn't have enough love for both children. As my friend Rae explained, "love just multiplies." It sure did!
If an NPD mother does love her children, it's for what they bring to her, and I felt that I brought her nothing but pain and shame after I was finally born.
I was too young to understand how my mother was insanely jealous.
So I don't understand how my mother looked at motherhood. I don't understand how she could look at a baby and it not be "hers" anymore. I was no more than an obligation, a millstone around her neck.
I, too, heard a lot of "I wish I never had children," and, "Your father loves you more than he loves me."
I'll never say as she did, “I wish I never had kids.” That's just too cruel to understand.
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